Life is difficult. It’s even more difficult when we make bad decisions. The goal of this post is to help simplify life for everyone and to promote good decisions.
People usually ask me all the time on certain occasions sometimes, “Adam, when should I move in with my girlfriend/boyfriend/fiancé/fiancée?”
I get asked this question even more frequently now than I did in the past, I assume it’s because I’m qualified to answer it now since I’m happily married when previously I wasn’t married at all.
Bonus tip: Never take dating or marriage advice from unqualified (unmarried) people.*
So today I’m going to answer that question in the most concise, practical, statistically-sound, and intelligent way I possibly can by answering that question with a few questions of my own.
Please, take a few minutes to grab your significant other, paper, and a writing utensil of your preference (I recommend a chisel tip Sharpie for these types of exercises). Once you have all of that, reflect on and answer the following questions before finishing this post.
30 questions to ask your significant other before moving in with them:
Are we married yet?
Are we married yet?
Are we married yet?
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Are we married yet?
If the answer to any of these questions is “no,” then you should not move in with your significant other.
For in-depth statistics, anecdotal evidence, and smart-sounding mumbo jumbo, I highly recommend reading this book. My lovely wife, who is the best wife of all wives, gave it to me as a Christmas present when we were still engaged and it has profoundly changed how I view marriage.
You’re all welcome and I’m sorry for bursting your collective bubbles. Actually, no, I’m not sorry. Some bubbles need to be burst.
*And by “never” I mean “almost always never ever except on rare occasion which is approximately 6% of the time.”
Questions? Comments? Concerns? Opinions? Comment below or shoot an email to Adam@LetsDigress.com! And please, be kind or at least be grammatically decent.
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